How to Protect Your Relationship with Your Child

Ayani Garris

Parents, do you fight with your children when you really should be talking to them? Now, I’m no expert, but if you’re relating to this question, it shows that you’re doing a lot more harm than good. By following these steps below, you can mend the broken fence with your child.

Ayani Garris As you see, yelling can make your child upset with you.
  1. Stop yelling. Why are you yelling?

One way to get your child to lash out at you is your tone. I do understand why a parent believes raising their voice is a good way of discipline, because it gets their child’s attention and it can get them to listen to you, but this could also scare your child, frustrate them, or make them cry. Later, when they want to approach you about a situation, it is hard because they’re frightened and nervous you will then break out in anger and take it o

  1. Put your pride aside.

Your obsession of being right can hinder your ability to pay attention to what your child is trying to say. Sometimes during an argument, there are things that are said in the heat of the moment, but you should take time to reflect after it is over. To fix a relationship, whether it is your partner, child or parent, it will take great communication. Without comprehension, how could you possibly move forward from what occurred? Taking responsibility for your mistakes is a part of life. Your child does not deserve to think their mother or father doesn’t understand them or is making them feel bad because being right means more to you. 

  1. What ever happened to affection?

No love, affection, or attention from a parent can hurt a child’s feelings. Many may believe that is an exaggeration; however, damage can be caused from neglect and the idea that “My mother doesn’t love me” or “My father doesn’t love me.” You have the opportunity to change the way you will raise your child from how you were raised. 

Children often can’t help but love their parents or those who raise them, but that doesn’t mean they have to like them. It can really be unfair to take the disrespect just because people share blood. Kids don’t want to fight. When was the last time you had a decent conversation with no snarky remarks? So parents, if you don’t want your child to distrust you, you have come to the right place. If you are still unsure of your relationship and would like to prove your sincerity or avoid these issues, then here are some other resources that may help.

“The Harmful Effects of Toxic Stress on You & Your Children”

By YourTango Experts

“How to Build a Good Relationship With Your Child”

By Susan Merrill

“10 Habits to Strengthen a Parent-Child Relationship”

By Laura Markham ph.D